I don’t even have a wife yet,
but when I have children, I will drill them on money….
I think us poor folks grow up knowing nothing about money and have terrible financial literacy…..
it’s been frustrating job searching
it’s a tough market. maybe this is a sign I should double down and start seriously looking at grad school options
a lot of friends are in/done with it too….
the problem with some people is that hey want closure, some finality that explains something, and makes sense….
but truth is, NO ONE is owed closure or logic when somethign ends or is not meant to be…
I wish Abby would have been more blunt and firm… move the fuck on, because you won’t get a real answer when you ask the question anyway.
DEAR ABBY: I am a young woman who proposed to my high school sweetheart after graduating from college. It may seem odd for a woman to do, but I initiated our relationship in high school and then attended an all-women’s college. Suffice it to say, he said he wasn’t going to be the “one.”
I can’t understand why he rejected me, and I don’t know what to do now. I thought I was making a sound decision choosing my friend because he is an engineer. Could it be that he doesn’t regard me as a good enough partner because I have an art degree, or could it be insecurity on his part?
I can’t imagine why he doesn’t want to marry at this stage in life. We are 23. We were together for four years, and for both of us, this was our longest relationship. Part of me wonders, if I change, will he change his mind? Or does this seem like a hopeless case? — JANE DOE IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR JANE: If you would like to know his reasons for not accepting your proposal, the person you must ask is him. While you feel ready to make a lifetime commitment, your boyfriend apparently hasn’t reached that stage of life.
I know you’re disappointed, but life doesn’t always go the way we predict it will. (Sometimes it turns out even better!) So please don’t try to change yourself to accommodate someone who is emotionally unavailable. You could twist yourself into a pretzel, but it wouldn’t work because you aren’t the problem. Accept it and move on.