MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY

gnostic bent

Trying to convince a woman that being a guy isn’t a cake walk usually ends with two examples of feminine woe: menstruation and childbirth. You might also hear gripes about how guys can pee standing up and need not worry as much about dirty toilet seats, empty toilet seat cover receptacles and butt rash. Of course, being male isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, and here are some reasons why.

Testosterone is a bitch

I touched on this in my post “The Trials and Tribulations of the Testosterone-Fueled Male.” As a heterosexual man—and despite having a wife I would never consider cheating on—I still find myself instinctively “checking out”  women of all shapes and sizes. And whether I like it or not, my thoughts sometimes turn into sexual fantasies about the most attractive ones. And I’m not talking about women that society would deem attractive, but those I…

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I LOVE WORDS AND THE POWER OF LANGUAGE….THE BEAUTY… HERE…IS A GREAT BLOG ON ETYMOLOGY

The Sceptical Prophet

The English language is full of strange idioms, many of them that we use without understanding how that phrase came to being. I only have time for a few but I might add more later. Let’s take a look at them shall we?

Train of thought: The process and direction of one’s thoughts

From the early 14th century, the word “train” meant a “drawing out or delay” of something. In the mid-15th century, the word evolved to include a “retinue or procession”. The first example of the term “train of thought” was attested in the 1650s whereas the first use of the word “train” in the sense of a locomotive. As a result, the idiom “train of thought” has nothing to do with trains (the transport) and is more likely to derive from a “delay” of a “procession” of “thought” (hence losing your train of thought).

Cup of Joe: Coffee

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MORE DRAMA THAN A MOVIE…..

A dear friend friend asked to have lunch with me today…. and she confided in me a terrible thing…

Her boyfriend that she’s been going steady with just passed away…. a few things she learned…. many hard things she found out that were hard to swallow and she didn’t want to know……

Found out the hard way that he was cheating on her before he died…. that he was doing drugs….and that was probably part of the real reason he died (OD). Some people tried to hide her from the truth…as if shielding her would make her present suffering any better or easier to take…some still try to hide things from her…. I’ve encouraged to stop looking for things…. she might find more she need not/doesn’t want to know….

Found out the fucking lowlife punk ass never really finalized his divorce as he lied …. his fucking crazy controlling ex-wife called my friend on her from HIS cell AFTER HE DIED….

I was quite sad, empathetic and furious…. but I listened…. and I assured her her best closure now is to move on, forgive herself above all else….and she conceded that is the hardest thing…. to feel foolish and forgive yourself in spite of all the red flags you should have seen…..

I urged her to find her own closure…and find strength in those she has left…those who love her,,, those who she can lean on for support… those who care about her… friends and family and relatives who have always and will always be there.

I’m glad she’s going to counseling to help get over this…. very tragic and unfortunate…supremely humiliating, angering, frustrating and demeaning, fucking terrible shit.

I was furious but I held back my emotions….I tried my best to be calm and controlled, strong and empathetic…. I can’t display too much anger at first…. it’s unfair to the friend…. they have enough of their own emotions to deal with… I shouldn’t drive them away with my own anger and burden them with it……

With time… she’ll move on.

The most important thing you can give a fellow  human being is your time… your ear….

Because time is something you can’t take back, get back,….. a resource that is an exponent of love itself….you can only give it to those who matter…. and those who don’t matter and love you will be stingy with their time…and likewise those who love you will be there and give you time and a listening ear no matter what….

VALUE THE FRIEND WHO WILL CHECK THEIR SCHEDULE TO MAKE TIME FOR YOU

BUT CHERISH THE FRIEND WHO CARES NOT TO CONSULT THEIR CALENDAR AT ALL FOR YOU

AND NEVER LET THOSE FRIENDS GO

HEAVEN KNOWS WE ALL NEED FRIENDS LIKE THAT TO WALK IN WHEN THE WORLD WALKS OUT

I’ll keep in touch and make sure she’s hanging in there alright and doing OK as she moves forward with her life.

BUT AIN’T THAT SOME SHIT

motherfucking piece of shit punk ass bastard …

 

oh well….

you only gain the strength of that which you overcome

music I love

MY FAVORITE NEW MUSIC NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

ONE MORE NIGHT – MAROON 5

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwK7ggA3-bU

This song speaks to the blindness you can be in love… trapped in a cycle, in a bad relationship even if it’s a really bad one…. the allusions to violence and abuse are very explicit…and in general how hard it can be to leave a bad habit…in this video she’s leaving a bad man, a violent life behind…. and he can’t do the same….the lyrics are much more poetic than the images.

50 WAYS TO SAY GOODBYE – TRAIN

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GSBFehvLJDc

A fun song about the search for truth and what you really want

 

DRIVE BY – TRAIN

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxqnFJ3lp5k

I love the funky beat…uptempo and a good song about hanging on to a good thing

 

THIS’LL BE MY YEAR – TRAIN

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Bw8TsS6f2U

I FUCKING LOVE THIS SONG…. MY PERSONAL ANTHEM HEADING INTO 2013 WITH OPTIMISM 

POLITICAL AND PERSONAL…INSIGHTFUL

 

last month I dug out a really old song! My oldest brother has an old best of CD that is Jacky Cheung….one of the great singers of modern Chinese pop music….a few great songs I love on that CD…. I don’t know what this song is about…but I like it….it’s off his best hits CD. I fell in love with it all over again…been a long time since hearing these old Chinese classics…this CD is at least 10 years old with songs going back even further!

I wish I understood Chinese…

Jacky Cheung – A Thousand Reasons To Be Sad (If I am correct)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=imfS0gXxmCc&feature=related

 

one hard lesson two ways

I am deeply disappointed in myself…. I was taught by the wisest of all…. that one would make 10,000 mistakes in a lifetime…and the true mark of intelligence, experience and wisdom entails not making the same mistake twice…. and yet I fell into the same trap twice. 

 

Nothing hurts so good and yet so bad as unrequited love.

It’s funny…. I love this song by James Morrison which tells exactly what that feels like….

There will not be a third. 

IF YOU DON’T WANNA LOVE ME – JAMES MORRISON

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9IjLDEtGHM